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How to set Boundaries

Sophie Elizabeth

Ask any of my clients what my favourite topic is and they’ll tell you boundaries - because saying no is SO empowering and exciting once you get going! Think of all the things you say yes to out of habit or obligation, when you’d actually rather be sat at home on the sofa watching Netflix and cuddling your dog.


Make a list of all the things you’ve reluctantly said yes to over the past few weeks (after work drinks with colleagues even though you’re knackered, finishing off that project for someone, organising that school fundraiser etc etc). I’m giving you permission to say no next time!




Setting and sustaining boundaries is essential to maintaining healthy relationships and in turn, a healthy life. It’s something my clients often want to work on.


Step 1: Consider what you will and won’t accept, and name these limits. For example ‘I’m willing to access my work emails on my personal phone, but I won’t be checking them at the weekend’


Step 2: Communicate these boundaries - be direct, honest and thorough when explaining your boundaries to people.


Step 3: Give yourself permission to implement these limits; remember that they’re a sign of self respect and self worth - you’re not being selfish or difficult.


Setting boundaries takes courage, practice & support so start small and practice often. What boundaries would you like to implement? 👇🏻


Remember, the only people that will get annoyed at you implementing boundaries are those who benefitted from you having none.


I really recommend this book if you'd like to learn more about this area.

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